Due to more than a few interesting posts, articles, tumblr “reports”, and reddit crap, and twitter tweets in the last two days that have figuratively flown out of my monitor, grabbed me by the shoulders and shaken me until I am suffering from whiplash, I finally  decided it would be fun to use all of the information that I have gathered during my attempt to understand the man behind the newly infamous website known as: “Goverments Get Girlfriends: On involuntary celibacy and the need of government to solve it.” to answer many of the questions that I keep seeing asked over and over all over the internet.

Question 1: What is an Incel?

Incel is the abbreviation or colloquial term for “Involuntary celibate” or “Involuntary Celibacy”. According to a group of researchers from Georgia State University an Incel is: “[some]one who desires to have sex, but has been unable to find a willing partner for at least 6 months…” Involuntary celibates differ from those who identify as Asexual or those who are voluntarily celibate as they are not making a conscious decision to refrain from sexual intercourse or relationships in general.

Question 2: But the term “Incel” Makes it sound like a lifestyle choice, such as being Abstinent for religious reasons.

Unfortunately no, “Incel” is not a lifestyle choice, but a bi-product of one or more other issues that can lead to someone being celibate despite their personal desires for a relationship or sexual partner. This is why it is referred to as being an Involuntary Celibate.

Often there are one or more factors that the Incel alone has little to no control over that can lead to involuntary celibacy. Factors such as physical appearance and low self-esteem, psychological issues, love shyness, or an irrational fear of the opposite sex can lead to involuntary celibacy.

Question 3: Are all Incels Male Rights Activists (MRAs) and women haters?

No. While there are some Incel men who do blame women for not being attracted to them, there are many Incel men who take ownership over their psychological or physical problems (if that is what is leading to their celibacy) that they need to personally work on in order to function in a romantic or sexual relationship should they find one.

During my research I found several blogs and forum posts where Incel men would calmly ask women they went on dates with that turned out to be flops (not resulting in a subsequent date) why the woman did not wish to see them again, and actively searched for feedback as to what they were doing wrong, or if they (the Incels in question) appeared threatening, or were “coming on too strong”, these Incels were happy to receive constructive criticism and held no ill will whatsoever towards these women, if anything they appeared to be thankful towards them.

Question 4: What is GovernmentsGetGirlfriends’ (GGG) deal? Why Does he hate women?

GGC introduces himself as himself as: “… a fucked up kid from somewhere in Europe.” In posts within his blog he identifies as love shy, an Involuntary Celibate, and suicidal. His goal is to spread awareness regarding Involuntary Celibacy, and to create a government sponsored program to help Incels find sexual or romantic partners.

Question 5: Why Does GGG hate women?

While GGG did say he was anti-feminist on his about me page, and did make some comments that made it appear as though he were planning to stalk a woman who decided not to date him without giving him a reason why, and  making some other disturbing remarks throughout his blog, I do not believe he literally hates all women. I believe he is frustrated with women who do not have any desire to have sex with him. I believe that he is angry at feminists because he is constantly being attacked by them.

Question 6: His blog is being hosted on WordPress.com! They should kill his site!!!

That is not how freedom speech/press works. As long as he is not making threats against anyone, or committing libel or slander (which can only be addressed after something has been published) then he has a right to say what he wants, regardless of if we agree with it or not. I do not agree with half of the things I see on the internet, some of them make me want to smash my monitor with my fist, but people have a right to to say what they feel regardless of how their words affect me.

Question 7: His ‘Program’ is supporting rape and forced prostitution!

It took a bit of digging, as the rules are scattered throughout multiple comment sections on multiple articles, but these are the ones that I have found:

1.) The government would offer women money to go on blind dates.
2.) Women would freely apply to the program, as would Incel men.
3.) Every woman would have a limit of 30 dates.
4.) If she doesn’t find a suitable partner during those 30 days she will be fired to prevent scamming.
5.) Women who are fired would be banned from the program for at least 1 year.
6.) Women who complete their 30 dates with or without a partner would be paid in full.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m in no way supporting this program; however, it stands to reason that if women are freely applying for the program that they aren’t being ‘forced’ into anything. I do agree that it appears to resemble prostitution, but in one of the comments sections on one of his many posts he did state that the women were not required to have sex with the thirty Incel men they went on dates with, they just had to show up and make an effort at being interested in the Incel guy they were set up with.

In other comments sections there were a few discussions regarding the possibility of psychological and STD screenings for the safety of both the women and the Incels who took part in the program, but neither of these (to my knowledge) were added into the ‘rules’ of the program.

Dear readers, I really really hope that you aren’t like me in the uterus department. When it comes to ‘that time of the month’ my cramps are often so bad that I am literally bent over the toilet vomiting from a bout of abdominal pain so severe that I want nothing more than to scoop my uterus out with a dull shovel.

I’ve tried plenty of remedies in the past: cutting back on coffee before and during my periods; drinking raspberry leaf tea; I even waged war against the use of tampons and went lady diaper only for well over a year. For the longest time my best hope in the fight against my own personal monthly hell was to hope that I would feel the first wave of cramps coming early enough to swallow 3-5 ibuprofen and pray that some of the pills would manage to get far enough through my system that when I did eventually begin to vomit, they would be digested enough to give me a minimal level of comfort.

I’m not sure where I originally heard about carrot juice as a cramp remedy, but this past month I was breezing through the organic isle of my local Publix and my eyes fell on a large glass container of the orange stuff. My period wasn’t due for another week, but I figured it was worth a shot. If worse came to worse I would only be out roughly $5. So I tossed the jar into my cart and went about my shopping.

Flash forward a week and some change, and I feel the first wave of cramps roll over me like the four horsemen of the uterus apocalypse. In the midst of groaning and shoving my usual 4 ibuprofen into my mouth and fishing my hot/cold pack out of the refrigerator, my eyes landed on the large container of pureed vegetable matter that had been sitting on the bottom shelf for the past week. I went ahead and grabbed the jar and tried to remember exactly what I had read about the remedy as I attempted to open the vacuum sealed lid: ‘Was there a certain amount of this stuff that I have to drink? Is this some kind of Wiccan cramp cure? Do I take it with Vodka?’

I dumped the contents into a glass and eyed the colorful orange and lighter orange swirls with suspicion. It did not look tasty. It looked like a leftover cup from a 5 year old’s art class where the painting subject had been a giant… well, carrot. I slowly lifted the glass and took a sip. UGH! It smelled like where seawater went to die.

‘This crap must be the healthiest drink in the world.’ I thought to myself. ‘Isn’t that how these things work? The nastier they are the more healthy they are, and the tastier they are the worse they are for you?’

I did eventually drink the godawful liquid, and while I will say that it tasted absolutely horrid (and was immediately followed by what my loving boyfriend has dubbed ‘the icky dance’). I wish I could say that the juice did not work, unfortunately it actually worked wonders. I have had absolutely no cramps since I started drinking it earlier this week.

This does; however, mean that it is the only sure-fire way for me to keep from having cramps so bad I vomit in the future.

I really don’t know which is the worse alternative.

Long Story Short: Carrot Juice is my magical cramp cure; however, it tastes like death. FML.

I got bored and decided to make a bunch of cute printable labels that you are free to download and use at your leisure. These are great for making gift tags or using as labels for your own sauces in the kitchen.

To download simply click the above image and enjoy! I would highly recommend printing these on a heavyish card stock.

Complete with beefcake background. Rawer.

First of all – Ew, dusty! Second of all, take a moment to appreciate that lovely half naked man I have for a wallpaper, Yurm! The rest of the area is mostly taken up by my Logitech G15 keyboard and my dual screens. (I’ll be getting a 3rd one if I do well on my Maths final!)

The black shelf was gifted to me by my roomie, and the top part is covered in candles, while the middle compartments contain my nail polish and pen collection, a framed picture of a drawing my younger brother made for me, and my Harvest Moon DS collection. The black rectangle to the right is one of 2 bits of art I got from my Great Aunt, and is made with real jade.

The whole thing started on Sunday, when I located a coupon for a local nail salon that I actually enjoy visiting. It was $20 special for a manicure/pedicure (Roughly $20 off) bundle, and since I’ve been doing so well with my 5k training I figured I deserved a little reward for being so amazingly awesome! After arriving at the salon I noticed that there was an extra $10 deal where I could get a hand/leg/calf massage, an eyebrow wax, and a mud mask. Now, normally getting my tips and toes done is a special treat in and of itself, since I usually end up dropping roughly $40-$50 for UV (Gel) nails, plus an additional $10 if I want my eyebrows waxed on top of everything else, and seeing as how I felt I had earned this bit of pretty, I went ahead and got the extras.

I ended up getting blue nails with white tips and a little silver glitter band to soften the transition. So lovelies!

Although they seem a little more summer/beach than spring…

As I mentioned earlier, I’ve been undergoing 5k training program, and on Tuesday night I completed my very first 1 hour run! Needless to say I was quite sore the next day; however, as fate would have it the next day at school there was a free Aqua Massage booth for the students to take advantage of courtesy of the Health & Wellness Center!! I very nearly died of happiness. I grabbed a number early on in the day (10:00 AM after the booth arrived) and came back at 2:00 pm for my massage. I nearly fell asleep inside of the pod in which I was cocooned. The pods were deliciously comfortable and the water being used was heated just warm enough to make my muscles melt.  Once finished with my massage it felt like my bones were replaced with Jello. I had to go to the cafeteria to get some coffee to keep from falling asleep due to relaxation bliss. ‘Twas a magical day.

Finally on Friday as William and I were discussing when he was going to get his next haircut, he mentioned that my hair had gotten quite long – almost hip-length – and asked if I had thought about getting some of the length chopped off for summer. I mentioned that I had considered it; however, I knew that he liked my hair long, so I hadn’t wanted to mess with it. We discussed options and varying lengths until we both decided that as long as my hair was no shorter than the bottom of my bra line, the length would be acceptable, and I drove to the salon and got 8 inches of hair chopped off my skull.

That’s right, 8 inches. I was farking Rapunzel.

Luckily the lady was familiar with donating hair to Locks of Love, so I didn’t have to worry about shipping off my hair myself. She even put in some extra layers so that my hair is super fluffy and light! (for some reason most stylists don’t want me to put layers in my hair… I have to argue with them to make them do it, and even then they only put one set of them in! Grrr!) I absolutely adore how my hair looks, and my neck feels like I cut off a 5 lib. weight that had been tied to my head!

I can’t help but laugh that all of these things happened to fall within the same week though. I feel as pampered as a princess, which is really awesome considering Finals week is coming up in a hurry! I won’t have any time for relaxation then!

I have absolutely nothing to do all week long, so I decided to make a huge list of every single cleaning chore I can possibly think of and try to do every single one of them. Even the not-so-fun ones such as cleaning out the fridge. I hate that one. Wish me luck with the endeavor! (I’ll actually probably have this done by tomorrow. OCD Cleaning attack, now that I see the list of chores I feel like one of those women from Hoarders. >_>;;)

♥ Some questions before you go ♥

1.) Out of all the cleaning that goes into your house, what is your least disliked chore and your most hated one?

Personally I hate-hate-hate anything ‘ewwwy’ (trash, toilets, etc), but I looooove to vacuum.

2.) Do you have a ‘rewards’ system for when you complete your chores, or is it enough to cross something off of a list?

I’m a checklist freak (see above) so that is pretty much my reward, unless it comes to something that I really don’t like such as cleaning the toilets, then I get a sugary treat (after I wash my hands…)

3.) And finally: How do you keep yourself motivated?

Due to my obsessiveness if I don’t clean I end up getting depressed due to my surroundings being so dirty, so my own mental health is my motivation.

The latest edition to my free Do-It-Yourself Organizer page gallery is this lovely pink butterfly and rose weekly layout.  As with my last downloadable weekly spread, you can download it in 3 different formats: the full Photoshop version (which you can tweak to your heart’s content), a .pdf version (For quick on-the-fly text editing), and finally you can simply click and save the full-sized version of the image on the right and print to your heart’s content!

I’m still fiddling with getting everything as print-friendly as humanly possible, but this spread can easily be used for a 1/2 page or a full-page layout. The only issue I ran into when printing it myself is that if you want to conserve paper, printing 2 half pages on a single page of paper is a bit tricky. I promise to continue attempting to perfect sizing and printing in future releases. If you have any tips please let me know!

If you have any suggestions for themes/ideas/colors or types of pages (To-Do lists, Meal Planning, Blog Planning etc. Anything!) just comment below and I’ll put your ideas into a list for future releases!

So I just got back from watching the new Guillermo del Toro film MAMA and if I had to sum up the entire experience in only two words I would have to choose: HOLY CRAP!

I’ve always been a huge horror movie fan, and as much as I have lamented over the current state of the horror movie genre over the past few years, I have to say that del Toro hit the nail on the head as far as the type of horror that I’ve always loved in an awesome mixture of The Ring/The Grudge style body movements that make my brain bounce around in my skull while screaming “Inhuman! Unnatural! GTFO!“, and old school quick frame jump out of your seat: “What the friggity frick was that? CHRIST!” moments that while liberally scattered throughout the film did not make me stop jumping and yipping!

He also blew me out of the water with the fact that he wasn’t scared to let the audience actually see Mama, which is something that I normally would have groaned over. To me the most horrifying things are those that we can’t really see ourselves, and the actual ‘horrificness’ is left up to our imagination. When it comes to scaring me I prefer flickers in the dark as opposed to a full frontal of whatever monster is stalking my protagonists. But nope! We get to see a full frontal assault from Mama at certain points throughout the film, and you know what? She remains terrifying throughout (although not as much so as when we didn’t actually see her). My point is though, that whatever magic del Toro did to keep a monster scary after we’ve seen her in broad daylight and she still be about 80% as terrifying as when left up to the imagination, I want him to explain it to horror film makers so I can go back to being scared to turn off my lights at night again.

The plot and characters are another part of the movie I want to applaud. I’m used to many films being relatively 1 dimensional, which is understandable to an extent when dealing with movies that are roughly 1:30 minutes to 2:30 minutes in length. Writers and directors simply can’t create a fleshed out character in such a short amount of time, and it’s hard to give a character enough depth to make an audience truly care about them at all. All five of the main characters in Mama have wants, goals, needs, and desires that are all expressed either directly or indirectly, and all conflicts are resolved within the film’s length. The plot remains linear throughout, with a fully explained background into why everything has gone tits up, and all main characters receive closure to their conflicts by the end of the film. That is a great deal more than I can say for many other films I’ve seen in the past few years!

One thing I will say; however, is that Mama is not a film that will be as enjoyable in your home. Guillermo masterfully uses both space and sound to set up the ‘scary bits’ of the film, and there are certain parts where you see something out of the corner of your eye on a big screen that will make you jump, and these effects simply will not transfer over to a smaller one. The surround sound system is also employed throughout the movie, where you will hear a soft eerie noise out of the left side of the theater that will make you not want to look at the left side of the screen because: It’s over there!

All in all I have to say I absolutely LOVED this movie. Truth be told I was too terrified to look in my rear view mirror as I drove home because I was certain I would see a ghostly silhouette and go careening off the road. Also, I most certainly will not be going into my bedroom for the next few hours due to the fact that my closet door is open and Will isn’t home from his billiards tournament yet… Maybe that horror movie was a little too good.

I’m trying my best to get used to using Photoshop in my free time to make my organizer pages, if you have any suggestions (or even a layout idea that you would like to have made into a reality) let me know! I would be more than happy to try to make one for you.

Suggest a Free Layout: Do you prefer weekly/monthly/daily organizer layouts? What about your favorite color for your layouts? (If you print your pages out in color?) Or are you looking for a specialty page? (Blog planning; To-Do list; Meal plans etc.) Tell me what you are looking for (in the comments) and I’ll practice designing a layout with your idea and make it available for free downloading!

Well, I’ve wrapped up my first week at my new University and I can definitely say that it has been quite a gear change. The only class that has had a very large amount of homework has been my Maths class, but I suppose it is expected. All of my other assignments have been simple readings of the text books for each class. I’m actually looking forward to a higher workload to help keep me busy.

The biggest change for me has been my day-to-day schedule. School is roughly 45 minutes away, and on Monday and Wednesday I’m there from 8:00 in the morning to 22:00 at night. This is due to the fact that William and I are carpooling to and from school on both of these days, and on Monday he has a class that lets out at 21:15, and my last class ends at 15:00, so I spend that time reading or reviewing my Math homework. On Wednesday, I also have a class that lets out at 21:15, so we still get out of the school late at night. On Friday I drive up there by myself (as Will does not have classes) and I get to leave the school at 14:00. On Tuesday/Thursday, I work a regular 8:00 to 17:00 per usual.

What has been driving me a bit nutty this weekend is the fact that my weekend starts a bit early, so on days like today (Saturday) I’m sitting here thinking that it is Sunday, and rush to get all of the chores (Laundry, housekeeping, any additional homework reviews/reading) done before Monday when I will have absolutely no time to accomplish them! So in my head there is this ongoing monologue:

Brain: You don’t have time to look at that book now. It’s Sunday, you have to get Laundry done so you have clothes to wear to work tomorrow.

Me: It isn’t Sunday, and even if it were, I don’t have work on Mondays anymore, I have school.

Brain: Are you sure?

Me: Of course I’m sure. Shut up, I’m reading.

Brain: I’m still not convinced that you are correct. Perhaps you should check your phone or the computer calendar? You got to relax yesterday, so it certainly feels as though it is a Sunday.

Me: If I check will you shut up?

Brain: Of course I will, but I am never wrong you know!

[Gets up to check the clock, which has today's date and the words SATURDAY clearly visible.]

Brain: Well I’ll be darned! You were right! Still though, you should go ahead and get that laundry done, since it’s actually SUNDAY!

Me: You promised!

Brain: Oh don’t get so ruffled! I was only playing!

[Long quiet pause while I return to reading.]

Brain: sunday-sunday-sunday-sunday

Me: *sighs*

Other than that I have a relaxing weekend ahead of me. I’m looking forward to starting City of Dragons by Robin Hobb since it finally arrived in the mail from Barnes and Nobel yesterday. Which is my book #2 out of 100 of my reading goal for Goodreads 2013 Reading Challenge.